Happy Hump Day! Also known as Wedding Wednesday on this blog! I wanted to chat about how to deal with any sort of wedding stress. I'm not a wedding expert, but I love weddings and I learned a lot while planning mine! Wedding planning can be stressful, and I think all brides are worried about being stressed on their wedding day. I have a few ways to avoid the wedding stress that worked for me.
1. Plan, plan, plan!
I had the most amazing wedding planner. She's based in Northwest Arkansas, but she does elopements as well! Her name is Jessica Kersey of JLK Weddings. You can find her here and here. Having a wedding planner is obviously the easiest way to go, but it's not in everyone's budget. Most wedding planners do offer "a la carte" items where you can have a couple of meetings with them to figure out the path you want to take with your wedding. I do recommend having a day of coordinator at the very least, so you can just relax and have fun and not have to worry about anything on your wedding day.
Even if you don't have a planner, being on top of your planning will help lower the planning stress! Staying organized, keeping lists of your vendors, and having a great to do list will help you stay focused and on path. Jessica would send me monthly to do lists, and it helped me not get overwhelmed. There is A LOT to do when planning your wedding, so if you break it down by month or week it will help you stay on top of your planning.
2. Remember you have people to help you!
If there was ever something I couldn't decide on, I would ask for opinions from my bridesmaids or my mom. WARNING: remember it's your wedding so sometimes less opinions are better ha! If you and your fiance are fully overwhelmed and drowning in planning and tasks, enlist your bridesmaids and your family! I had 2 big meltdown type decisions when wedding planning. I could NOT decide on a table linen color (I had Jessica send me probably 20 samples of blue table linens), and my Maids of Honor really helped me out with that one. A couple weeks before the wedding, I was still debating on if I should have confetti canons go off as we walked back down the aisle after the ceremony. I asked everyyyyone, and I finally decided to ask my photographer! I didn't want to do anything that would look bad in pictures, so I went straight to the source and texted my photographer. He responded with something along the lines of "always say yes to confetti", so I immediately ordered all of the confetti canons.
Sidenote: if you're going to shoot off confetti canons or something along those lines, definitely let your photographer know so they're not shocked when it happens because confetti canons are LOUD! HA!
3. Do a first look
Okay, so I really wasn't stressed during the whole planning process. I had a great planner, we started so early, I was really pleased with how everything was going, BUT I got nervous during the early morning of the wedding day. I think waking up on your wedding day is SO exciting and SO happy. I was surrounded by my best friends, and we were getting our hair and makeup done, but I was feeling a little nervous. I really didn't want to feel nervous during the ceremony or leading up. As soon as Daniel and I did our first look I had NO nerves. I was just ready to get married! I'm not a shy person, but standing in front of 200+ people is crazy! Luckily, leading up to the ceremony, I was just so happy. I knew everything was going to go perfectly, so I was ready to get it going! The first look was so sweet, and really gave Daniel and I some time to be alone and get rid of those nerves. Daniel told me that he was able to be totally relaxed, as well, after our first look.
4. Take some time after your ceremony/family photos to take pictures with your new spouse!
Daniel and I took some pictures of just the two of us after we did family photos after the ceremony. The moments right after your ceremony are so sweet, but those family photos y'all! They are a mess! I'm not sure if there's any way to make them go faster/smoother. Ours really weren't bad because we had given a list to our photographer and so they went pretty fast. It's nice to just go off to a quiet place with your photographers and take some photos of you and your new husband/wife.
5. Remember that even if everything goes wrong, you're still getting married and that's the whole point!
Any time you get bad news about anything regarding wedding planning and you want to curl up in a ball and disappear into the center of the earth, remember that you will be married to your best friend at the end of the day. If it rains on your wedding day, that's okay! You'll still be married! If you trip walking down the aisle, that's okay! You'll still be married! If your cake gets knocked over and crashes to the ground, that's okay! You'll still be married!
BONUS TIP: HAVE FUN!
I can't say this enough!! You've planned your wedding for months and months, so enjoy it!! Get on the dance floor with your best pals and your new spouse and have the time of your life! When will you ever have all of the people you love in your life in one space again? Probably never, so have a blast!!
We had a random thunderstorm pop up the evening before our wedding. We had to make a whole lot of last minute decisions on the day of the wedding (literally we were deciding where to have the ceremony on the day of the wedding), but I genuinely wasn't stressed about it because 1. We had a plan A and a plan B and a plan C and so on. 2. I had 6 bridesmaids and my wedding planner in the room helping me make decisions that morning 3. I knew at the end of the day, IF it did rain and we had to change up some things, I'd still be married to Daniel by the end of it. Luckily, everything worked out perfectly and we were able to go with our plan A and not make any changes.
Okay, I'm getting out of here and will stop telling you how to live your wedding life now hehe! If y'all ever have any wedding questions shoot them my way!
See you next time!